Discover How to Overcome Hopelessness

When you look at our social and economic woes, you wonder if you can find any hope for the future. Sure, it appears that the economy could be recovering, but you realize what you see may be an illusion. After all, government spending is out of control and it seems as if we’ve suffered a moral decline. On top of that, you may be suffering from personal difficulties.

During moments of weakness, you feel that life slams you with hopelessness. After all, how else could you possibly feel? If your personal life continually deals you pain and sorrow, you cry in despair “Oh God, why must I suffer? Why does life treat me so cruelly? I don’t think I can’t take it anymore.”

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Dealing with the Difficult Person – 3 Effective Strategies

One of the challenges of everyday life remains dealing with a difficult person. For the sake of clarity, we must distinguish him from the impossible person, the emotional terrorist. In a recent video, I came to the conclusion that there’s no way you can deal with this type of person because it’s a no-win situation. The impossible person thrives on opposition and handles all the issues in his life in an adversarial way. He or she never achieves success in relationships.

My main goal in writing about the impossible person was to discourage you from dealing with him or her. I know I may have disappointed some of you when I revealed that there aren’t any effective strategies in interacting with this type of person except to get away as fast as possible. Fortunately, it’s different with a person who is just difficult.

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Revealing the Reality of Selfishness

Ayn Rand often received the question “Why do you use the word selfishness to denote virtuous qualities of character, when that word antagonizes so many people to whom it does not mean the things you mean?”

She said “For the reason that makes you afraid of it.” I always liked that answer, but unfortunately it doesn’t do anything about the confusion that pervades selfishness, especially with men and women who have a negative view of it or who have never read her books.

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Zen and the Integrated Individual

For many years, I hopelessly languished in a world of anger and frustration. The insane world, to put it bluntly, pissed me off. Despite my belief in rational thought and loving ways, I allowed the insanity and irrationality of the world to cause me to indulge in some irrational selfishness. For instance, I remember losing my temper and viciously punching the living room wall which resulted in my fist going all the way through to the bedroom. My reward was feeling ashamed of myself and the cost of fixing the wall.  Fortunately, I moved forward on my quest to become an Integrated Individual, discovering the Zen state of mind along the way.

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The Integrated Individual– Evolution of a Reluctant Objectivist

Seasons come and seasons go, often at an accelerated pace. Does it seem that each day of your life disappears at a rapid pace? The somewhat disheartening realization that your life relentlessly moves towards eternity makes it more difficult to anticipate change. Much of the new circumstances you face, cause you to wish for the “good ole’ days” which amounts to living in the past. I’ve concluded there’s only one way to handle life. You must evolve into an Integrated Individual.

Following is the first article on how I attempt to evolve from a Reluctant Objectivist into an Integrated Individual. You should know that the process is never complete because each day offers you something valuable in your quest to improve mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically.

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Wicca Captures the Reluctant Objectivist

We waited with growing anticipation of experiencing our first Wiccan circle. Since I knew nothing about Wicca, I didn’t know what to expect, although the coming ritual seemed to generate a glow that surrounded some of the participants. Finally, the moment arrived and I followed a gorgeous lady (Deandra) and the coven members into a spiritual room lit by candles. As I entered, the Priestess asked what name I went by. The only one I could come up with was Praxis.

The first thing I noticed was the alter, decorated with the tools of the trade. Included was the:

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Contradiction of a Mystical Objectivist

Ayn Rand states “A contradiction cannot exist. An atom is itself, and so is the universe; neither can contradict its own identity; nor can a part contradict the whole. No concept man forms is valid unless he integrates it without contradiction into the total sum of his knowledge. To arrive at a contradiction is to confess an error in one’s thinking; to maintain a contradiction is to abdicate one’s mind and to evict oneself from the realm of reality.”

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Recovery from Heartbreak and Unemployment

It was early evening in the middle of August when I arrived home from a new management position I had started 3 weeks ago. My efforts had resulted in the lab reaching close to peak performance, which gave me a sense of satisfaction. I poured a glass of chardonnay and began fixing dinner. It looked like I had turned my life around and that my recovery had begun

Suddenly, the phone rang. It was Maria, the Store Manager of my place of employment. She completely shocked me when she told me the owner of the company was letting me go. I could hardly believe it, so I asked her why he was firing me. She said she didn’t know why.

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A Love Relationship Collapses

It was a rainy Monday in December. Alicia said her and the girls were going Christmas shopping and would be gone for several hours. She didn’t invite me, which I considered fortunate since I don’t like shopping. They left so I decided to listen to some of my favorite music. I didn’t know, I would never see her again, that our love relationship had collapsed

I rolled a joint and put on Fleetwood Mac’s Rumours; however, I remained completely oblivious to her intentions, although I’m sure her late night activities spawned some rumors. Looking back, I believe my emotional intelligence had evaporated because of my recent heavy intake of Prozac. Yes, I was back on it. It didn’t seem to have a positive effect on me, because my only ambition was to sit around and get high. It isn’t any fun losing purpose and hitting rock bottom.

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Recovery – The Illusion of Well-Being

Alicia and I celebrated New Year’s Eve by drinking fine wine and smoking some potent marijuana. We talked, laughed and swayed to the music. Finally, we started crashing well before midnight, which would end the party. She said she had something that would pick us up. She went to the kitchen and came back with some coke and it wasn’t Coca Cola. We snorted some and the good times continued. My recovery seemed complete. See the previous article Prozac and the Crack-Up Boom.

Normally, I don’t like cocaine, but it did the job. I started feeling pretty good and rolled another joint, pouring us some more wine. I felt we would be ready to celebrate the New Year with some pleasure and ecstasy. How wrong I was.

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