An Emotional Terrorist can infect your body, mind and spirit with venom that spews from his or her forked, evil tongue. The vicious attack could descend you into the pits of hell…a living hell in your own living room or bedroom.
The Everyday Warrior acts from enlightened self-interest. He doesn’t want any part of his world polluted by a person…who lives his mean, disharmonious life as an Emotional Terrorist. Even hapless men and women stuck in the Hive Mind Mentality…do not desire its extremely neurotic members victimizing them.
The Hopeless Battle Begins
Victimizers become “masters” at sucking their victims into their warped mind. These dispensers of hurt and misery seem adept at poking your hot buttons. The next thing you know…the Emotional Terrorist has engaged you into an exchange of words and emotions. And it goes downhill from there…quickly.
You probably know…it’s impossible to win an argument or discussion with a damaged individual. You might as well challenge LeBron James to a winner take all basketball game.
Usually…the Emotional Terrorist will take the discussion to its illogical, often violent conclusion. Thinking there’s a chance for a win-win agreement or a compromise is an illusion. I hope you desire to see through illusion. That’s how you Master the Social Maze.
Are you beginning to see…if you attempt to prove your point with logical reasoning, this type of person won’t attempt to refute you. Instead, he (she) will resort to name calling and character assassination. Note: In the rest of the article, I will use the pronoun he, although you can substitute she according to the situation.
In case you are wrong and he knows it, be prepared for him to drag your intelligence and self-worth through the dung heap. The key to understanding the Emotional Terrorist is figuring out…he would much rather be right than happy, even when he is wrong.
You normally hear about violence men commit against women…and it’s a serious problem. You seldom hear about how a woman with a borderline personality disorder terrorizes a man. Here’s an article that explains it. 13 Signs Your Wife or Girlfriend is a Borderline or a Narcissist.
You’re Positive You have a Valid Point
Let’s say the previous abuse didn’t deter you…you unwisely make another attempt to prove your point. Unfortunately, your “opponent” is up to the challenge. He throws you a nasty curve by saying mean things about your mother, father, relatives, ex spouses, lovers, beliefs, etc.
If, heaven forbid, you still attempt to address the issue he could very well turn physically violent.
It’s probably occurred to you…a person like this disregards the golden rule. He certainly wouldn’t accept the awful things he says to you. If you don’t believe me, test him if you have the nerve. (I don’t advise doing this.) I guarantee he will increase his verbal abuse…and quite possibly resort to violence.
As incredible as it might seem, when you defend yourself against the violence, the perpetrator may threaten to call the police on you. Obviously, a person such as this does not possess any objective beliefs; for instance, like the virtue of trading value for value. You must realize…you are dealing with an Emotional Terrorist.
The Day After
Go forward in time to the day after. You unhappily discover…the sociopath will show absolutely no remorse or regret for his actions. Incredibly, an apology is out of the question. If you mention anything about the incident, expect another round of verbal abuse.
People who react in this way seethe with anger and hate. They have a malevolent sense of life… and stubbornly refuse to pursue anything to do with self-actualization. The Emotional Terrorist sends logic, reason, love, understanding, kindness, empathy and peace of mind on a permanent vacation. He seems to commit his life to destroying relationships.
Let’s say you embark on your own self-actualization journey. Maybe, you would like to exist as an Everyday Warrior. Here’s where the real kick in the rear knocks you off your feet. These men and women are so far gone…they will harshly criticize you for attempting to better yourself. As far as they’re concerned all freedom-lovers, spiritual teachers, motivators, trainers, self-improvement specialists are full of it. Face it, the Emotional Terrorist “thrives” on conflict and disharmony.
Enlightened self-interest means…you do not waste your precious time discussing anything with this type of individual. Why would you invite someone to verbally and physically abuse you? When you engage a sociopath…you set a flame to the negative energy that permeates the atmosphere.
To Walk Away or Fight
You might think walking away from an Emotional Terrorist is the easiest course of action to take. Here’s a fact for you. Leaving the scene requires amazing self-control. Once you are under attack…the natural tendency is to defend yourself. If you have any moral fervor about the right to self-defense…you’ll be ready to jump into the fire and fight a losing battle. You have to be on guard at all times and control your thoughts, feelings and actions.
Here are a 4 possible ways to deal with an Emotional Terrorist.
- Don’t get involved with one in the first place. Unfortunately, this type of individual might not reveal his true self until he has you wrapped up. Plus sociopaths seem to possess the ability to turn on the charm. Even though you might be blinded with infatuation…take control and discover someone’s value system before you fall head first into the relationship.
- Once you discover you are involved with this type of person, you should head for the exit. Unfortunately, because of certain external factors…it may not be feasible to split the scene. You are currently trapped. If this person is physically abusing you…get out whether it’s feasible or not. I would think that your life reigns as your highest value. You certainly don’t want to sacrifice that.
- Perhaps you’re a masochist and receive some perverse pleasure from the relationship. I won’t tell you to leave. However you need to weigh the long-term consequences of your lifestyle…and possibly receive professional help should you decide masochism isn’t in your best interest. If pain is one of your highest values, you’re living with a messed up value system.
- This one is tricky. For reason of love or money you may decide to learn how to handle this person. Maybe you think you’re already a master at getting along with an Emotional Terrorist. That’s hard to believe. Of course if you enjoy playing with fire—.
Embracing personal liberty and freedom means you seek a pleasurable, rewarding lifestyle…not pain and suffering. A relationship with an Emotional Terrorist leads to nothing but hardship and misery. Find a marvelous value for value relationship and enjoy your life. An individual who embraces enlightened self-interest acts with purpose.
RA Meyer – Master the Social Maze
P.S. By the way, feel free to post your insights or experiences concerning the Emotional Terrorist.